Couples and Relationship Therapy

There is a magic that happens between us when we are witnessed in our relational world; when what usually happens behind closed doors, has a chance to breathe with a new perspective. Sometimes it’s enough to have a container to talk vulnerably with our partner(s). And other times we need more guidance. In my practice, this guidance might come in the shape of receiving emotional attunement, learning how to provide this for one another, or skilling up in best practices that support secure attachment within relationships—monogamous or not.

As a therapist practicing from an Emotionally Focused Therapy lense, there are few moments more gratifying than when the core of a conflict gets crystallized, relational wounds emerge and are finally given a voice within a relational dynamic. My work is to guide clients to allow themselves to sense into their own emotional experience and to touch into their true feelings and needs, which are so often obfuscated by years of coping strategies and defenses. Those mechanisms once served them well, but now contribute to an unsustainable cycle of behaviors that are leading to increasing disconnection with one another. If you’re noticing repeated patterns like this in your relationship(s), it would be an honor to sit in the muck with you and to find a way out of this labyrinth together. 

I especially welcome folks who are practicing ethical non-monogamy (e.g polyamory, open relationships, swinging etc.). Perhaps you are new to this world and would like support with setting up agreements, unlearning monogamous scripts and moving through big feelings that naturally arise; perhaps you are experienced, and simply want a therapist who does not problematize your non-monogamous lifestyle. In any case, you are welcome here.